I suppose you came across this article while searching for ways on how to save a marriage. Whether you know someone whose marriage is falling apart, or being in that situation yourself, this article might be of help. Even though I am not a relationship guru, nor do I claim to be one, I have been through rough patches in my own marriage, and have pulled myself out of that rut thankfully with my wife and kids still beside me. I guess that such experience, which I will be discussing in this article, can provide you valuable insight to your marital problems and how to address them.
I married at an early age, 23 years old to be exact. My wife is ten years my senior, but back when we were still dating, and even in the first few years of our marriage, that age difference was never a problem. This, however, was not the case three years after we got married. We bickered a lot and the recurrent theme of our arguments are about issues related to our age difference such as dissimilarities in how we spend our free time, lifestyle, moral values, and even libido. Our age gap also transformed her into an overly jealous partner who would get suspicious easily of female officemates who are younger than her. From time to time my spouse threw a jealous fit especially if someone informs her that my officemates and I are staying out late for a coffee or drinking session.
These frequent arguments strained our marriage, and it came to a point that I had enough and decided to leave the house for a while. I stayed in a hotel for two weeks and it was during that time that I read a couple of self-help books which gave me tips on how to save a marriage. Reading those books gave me a good insight to the problem. I realized that my wife wasn’t the source of all our marital problems and I was also partly to blame. Whenever she had a jealous fit, I never really did anything to reassure her. Also, whenever I went out with friends, I rarely invited her to come along. I also learned how important flirting and foreplay is to women which made me realize why my wife wasn’t as happy with our impromptu carnal encounters.
Equipped with those pieces of information I went back to our house, sought my wife’s forgiveness, and asked her to a romantic supper for two, to which she said yes. We talked about our differences, attentively listening and not interrupting her while she said her piece.
From that day onwards, I make it a point to let her know how I feel and that I am thinking of her by sending her love quotes through SMS, or writing messages on post-its, which are occasionally naughty, and placing them in objects and areas of the house she uses or goes to regularly. I now insist on taking her along to get-togethers with friends and I am particularly cuddly with her if female colleagues are around to reassure her that I’m hers and hers alone. We also decided to make Wednesdays as our weekly dinner date, and try as much as possible to go on a vacation to celebrate our wedding anniversaries.
Today my wife and I are celebrating our 8th wedding anniversary and our family has grown. We now have two daughters, twins, who are just as gorgeous as their mom. Every day with her is a validation of my decision to marry and stay with her for the rest of my life.
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